Submitting to my husband is a CHOICE that I’ve made as his wife. It’s not something that he has forced me to do, or something that he expects me to do but something that I WANT to do! Here is why….
1. I am a very strong willed person. I can be very opinionated and passionate about certain subjects and because of this I’m absolutely certain I had quite my share of temper tantrums when I was a kid! Sometimes I need someone to make me humble. I need someone to say, “Hey, you are wrong and you need to sit there and think about what you’ve done!” (not that my husband actually says this) But I need that balance in my life of someone else who shares the same passions but isn’t afraid to tell me when I need to “simma’ down” a bit, or even at times, get more up in arms!
2. I respect and honor my husband. He is a very intelligent man who has inspired me immensely to go after my dreams. I believe in him just as he believes in me. I have learned so much from our conversations and debates and never stop learning from him. He has taught me so many things about the bible and even just life in general.
3. My husband respects me. He holds me in high regard like his very own princess. He really listens to the things I talk to him about and he never pushes me to the side because he is too busy. I come first in his life after the Lord and his love for me is obvious.
4. He is my best friend. We shop together, laugh together, have children together, eat meals together, do laundry together, clean the house together, pray together, and worship the same God together.
5. It creates unity in our home. Submitting to my husband isn’t what the world thinks it is. It’s not just me sitting back and keeping quiet and letting him make all the decisions. It is being partners, having respect for each other so much that you don’t WANT to make a decision without consulting the other person. I am not required by my husband to ask him before I make a decision, I love him and value him so much that I WANT to include him in all my decisions. For the most part we talk about everything together and we make decisions together! If there is ever a situation where we do not agree (which never happens) then my husband will get the final say. I don’t have to like it, but that is the way it will be.
6. God says!
Ephesians 5:22-24: Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
But God also says:
Ephesians 5:25; Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
YES!! My husband is commanded to have so much love for me that he would die for me just as Christ died for our sins.
7. Because my husband loves me this much he would NEVER be bossy, rude, conceited, or selfish with the fact that I have chosen to be a submissive wife to him, but he is thankful, gentle, thoughtful, and receptive to all my opinions, passions, and temper tantrums!!
8. It is healthy for us to learn how to serve others besides ourselves. Being submissive not only has brought us closer together as husband and wife but it has taught both of us how to think of the other before ourselves. He is always putting my needs before his, and I him. Sure there are times we let ourselves get a bit selfish but because we have a great relationship where we can say, ” hey I think that was a little selfish” to one another…we usually get right back on track.
9. It keeps the sparks alive. Well, we have 6 kids…need I say more? 🙂 We love each other more today than we did the day we got married. Because I’ve CHOSEN to be submissive it causes my husband to value me and adore me. When you have someone who thinks of you first in all things, it makes you want to do the same for them and that can be very attractive!
10. We have a great marriage. Neither of us feels insecure, nor do we ever bring up the “D” word in our arguments. We have disagreements, and get angry at one another BUT we know that in the end we will always have someone to hug and make up with when it is all over.
You see being submissive is a JOY! It doesn’t steal away my rights as a woman or an individual but it brings me JOY as a wife, friend, and Child of God. Trust me it was a struggle in the beginning and even now some days it still is, but the rewards and blessings that come out of our marriage is more than worth it.